A Love Letter

Victoria Oladipo
3 min readFeb 14, 2023

For single people

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I can never imagine life without love. That’s like imagining a life without God. The entirety of the reason why we exist is to love. It multiplies itself. Love takes from stages. One day, you are in love and the next, there are two humans who look like you running around in your sitting room, a replica of your love.

Love is not quiet. Do not ever accept a love that is quiet. It’s loud, it’s lavish and it brags. Do you see how God loves? That’s the type that is for you. The type that brags that they bagged you. The type that reminds you every day that this is life worth living. The one that gets you to trust wholeheartedly. No insecurities. The point of see finish.

‘Love is too small, too singular a word for the feeling it’s trying to hold. Just one word isn’t enough, so I want to use them all. Sometimes I think love is the reason language was invented.’

I refuse to believe that love is not enough. I’ve held that there are other things that must be attached to love for it to be whole, for it to be full. Any other thing that has ever been explained to be added to love is what love in itself is about. Love is whole. Love is one.

When I got asked how I wanted to be loved, one day in 2019, I realized that I had never answered that question before. I just accepted any kind of love that came my way. But now, I know better. I know how I want to be loved. My desires have changed over time. The most important thing is for us to be loved and be loved exactly the way we want it.

Here’s what I think. If you get very, very lucky in this life, then you get to love another person so hard and so completely that when you lose them, it rips you apart. I think the pain is the proof of a life well lived and loved.

When love speaks, it speaks with grace and poise. The word is quintessential because that is exactly what love is. Elegance, beauty, luxury, even in small things. Those are the things that you are worth, that you deserve. It is beauty for me.

Love hurts sometimes, love is perfect but people aren’t. There is so much in the actions of people that is so far from what love is. But the actions from love can be felt and smelt even from a distance apart. Sometimes, you have to love someone enough to let them go. You have to do it for the state of your mind, for the beauty it is, and for the fact that it’s not love’s fault. It’s humans’ fault.

‘The problem with broken hearts isn’t that they kill you. It’s that they don’t.’

In all, I hope I have reminded you that although you might not have someone who you can share this day with, like me, this mail reminds you of all the things love is. All the beauty it is and all the small things that can be find in it and its actions. Love is beautiful and I hope we find love that we deserve.

Love is the question and the answer and the reason to ask in the first place. It’s everything. All of it.

Happy Valentine’s day

P.S All quotes are from a book, Instructions for Dancing. I wrote this as a mail for single people in 2022. I only thought to publish it this year.